Stefanie Peters, your Lady Boss, is back! This year, she will be focusing on teaching you how to live out your God-sized dreams and break out of the rat race. As a start, Stefanie shares three important life lessons to level up your life so you can write the story you can call your very own and shape a legacy you can be proud of. She also looks back on her own experiences living these lessons herself, such as going on seven dates in seven days, putting people in “buckets,” and deciding to go all in with real estate.

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3 Life Lessons To Level Up Your Life With The Lady Boss

Reflecting On Legacy And The Future

It has been a hot minute, but I just had this ultimate poll to get back to it. I have missed you, guys. I’ve missed the collaborations. I’ve missed the feedback and just helping you, guys, bridge the gap between where you are and where you ultimately want to go and give you those tools and resources. Here I am. The lady boss is back. I wanted to fill in the gaps from what has happened since the last episode. It’s been quite a few things.

I got engaged in February of 2024 and got married December of 2024. It was amazing, fabulous, exhilarating and stressful and all the feels. One thing that I think some of you guys probably won’t be too surprised by this but, a lady boss fashion for the wedding. It was a very small intimate gorgeous wedding on the Caloosahatchee, on this adorable little island. I moved the wedding from 4:00 PM to 11:00 AM three days before the wedding. Let’s just say, that didn’t sit too well with all parties involved but they got over it and the day was truly perfect for us.

After the wedding, I got quiet and thought about life in the next 5 or 10 years and the word that came to mind was legacy. When I think about the word legacy, I chose that as my word for 2025 and reflected on where we’ve come but also where we’re going, talking about our vision for the future. One of the things that I’m so thankful I did is I dug my well before I was thirsty. I build multiple streams of residual income and I am so grateful for that. Now, one of the huge drivers is I want to build buildings that matter and last. That legacy play.

The rental properties that I’ve acquired even before getting married have been amazing. They built such a strong foundation, but as Brian and I, my husband, we started talking about wanting to build on that and acquire property where we can make an impact for the kingdom. We want to build our family. We want to create these epic memories together in our community locally and even nationally and build that foundation so we can be able to make an impact and lead a legacy. That’s where we’re at here and cats out of the bag. Yes, we’re working to expand our family.

If you could pray for healthy twins, we would be forever grateful. I know that’s a random dream, but that’s been on both of our hearts, so we’ll see how this goes. Another dream of ours has been to buy land ideally on the river where we can build an epic community, a camaraderie, host a leadership event and just make a difference. I was thinking about the outline for the episode and it made me think through why I want to do this show and the long on the short of it is to pay it forward.

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Through the years, I have been able to connect with such incredible people and learn such phenomenal life-changing lessons. I want to share that with my circle. That is what fires me up. When I can equip my friends and family to be able to run after their God sized dreams, that’s what keeps me up at night. I’ll be the first to admit, I’m not super talented, as a lot of you probably know but one thing I would say is my complete zone of genius is being a power connector.

I freaking love changing people’s lives through helping them connect the dots. That’s the poll in this next season of the show. I want to help you with the mindset shifts, the money tips, and the collaborations that you could have with someone in business or life. That’s the whole thing, legacy. In 2025, I will be doing episodes equipping you to live out your God sized dreams and break out of the rat race into your pace and just own that authenticity and what your definition of success is and is significant. That is what this is all about. I want to help you build a foundation and a legacy of whatever your God size dreams are.

We’re about halfway through 2025 and I believe that it’s such a powerful time to be checking in on where you are from the goals that you set from January 1st, and where you want to go. In this episode, I wanted to share three life lessons to help you jumpstart your second half of 2025 and lay that framework for the rest of 2025. Side note, I’m fired up about this. I have something I have never offered publicly on the show, so stay tuned to the end.

Delving Into The “Let Them” Theory

My first power principle or one thing that propelled me forward and gave me so much freedom is something called the let them theory. Now, I’ll be the first to say I’m not a huge fan of Mel Robbins. She has been growing on me a little bit more but in 2024, I got caught up in having big expectations for people in my inner circle and when they were met, I was pretty devastated. My default nature has been in the past to shut those people out, but that is what John Bevere in his book called The Bait of Satan. That’s what he says is lethal for you all day long.

I decided, “I am not going to take the bait of Satan. I am going to bless and release this situation and I’m going to let them be who they are and move on.” Moving forward, this has been so powerful. I put people in buckets. Now call me a geek but this works for me. Let me give you an example. In 2025, I had a friend that I would bend over backwards for and was there through it all. Whenever I needed that person in that same capacity, they weren’t there. It was hard to swallow but after I blessed it and released the situation, I now know they are essentially a phone friend. When push came to shove, she was not a flat tire friend and that’s okay. I’m going to love her anyway.

The freedom there is phenomenal. Now, a side note. It depends on how you're wired. If you need to have a come to Jesus conversation with your friend to carry in candidly address what’s going on just to clear the air. Do that, but if they still don’t change, love them and find other people that can be that person for you. That is number one, let them theory.

The Importance Of Owning Your Path

Number two, own your path. Some of you guys know this, but at the age of 30, the weatherman came on and said, “Congratulations, Minnesota. You have broken the number of days below zero.” That announcement almost broke my soul. I am constantly teaching people about not living life by default and even though I hate the cold, I was still there. I decided, “I’m going to change that.” I took one of the biggest leaps of my life. I sold everything besides my real estate portfolio and moved to Florida full time.

Not only did I move across the actual country to start a brand-new life, but I kicked off a whole new career at 30. I’ve been investing in real estate since 2008, but I decided I was going all in with real estate. I remember posting my first story on Instagram about touring a house in Florida. I normally do not care what people think but I was so nervous that people would look down on me for starting a whole new career at 30.

My friend, Jeremy, sent me a DM on Instagram and he asked the question on my story of doing a boomerang of the house and doing some of these house tours. He asked the question, “Are you selling houses?” I literally wanted to disappear like, “How is he going to judge me? What is he going to think?” I sheepishly replied yes, and he said, “Sweet. I thought about doing that for years.” That was such a powerful lesson for me. He had been thinking about it for years, but hadn’t had the courage to take the leap.

My whole thing is to own your path and what’s best for your family. What is God calling you to do? People may or may not approve. That’s a given, but that’s not your business. You are performing for an audience of one and working towards, “Well done, my good and faithful servant.” The other thing is, I have to watch my social consumption because I will be the first to say, I can get caught up in FOMO or fear of missing out not doing this and not achieving that but I’m getting intentional on dialing into JOMO or the joy of missing out.

Own your path and what is best for your family. Embrace what God is calling you to do, even if people around you disapprove.

Having that freedom to wake up daily, keeping my eyes on my own yoga mat and being in step with the plans of my father God and what he’s giving me to do. That shift at 30 was probably one of the most gutsy things I’ve ever done and some would say crazy, but it was also one of the most rewarding. If I didn’t make the leap, I wouldn’t be living in the Sunshine State, married to the love of my life, and pursuing my own God-sized dreams to the extent that I am now. I love paying that forward. In 2025 in real estate, it is a roller coaster.

I had one of my breakthrough months. I set an all-time high and I helped a client by a proper property listed on the market for $2.2 million and I negotiated it down to $1.86 million. For those of you that aren’t great at math, $340,000 off the purchase price. All I have to say is when you own your path, God will open epic doors that no man can shut.

Determine One Thing And Master It

The third life lesson is to determine one thing and master it. I love this. I heard this on either Facebook or Instagram and they said, “You’re not bad at anything. You simply need more reps that are in business and personal life.” I just want to let you guys in on a little secret. My truth after being in a very toxic relationship. I did an episode on it way back when. My truth after being in that relationship with a gaslighting narcissist was I am not good at romantic relationships. I let that play loud in my head for way too long.

I went back to default life basically hitting on all cylinders with real estate, which I’m so thankful for. I’m having so much success on paper but yet when I was hit on all cylinders with real estate, I had this knowing that I truly wanted someone to do life with but I felt paralyzed. I kept believing that story in my head after that relationship. Fast forward to a day where I was feeling sorry for myself and my brother called me out. He said, “Stef, if you would focus on finding a romantic relationship like you do on business day in and day out. You would have been married at eighteen.” I will call that a mic-drop. Shout out to Ben Peters, but that was truly my moment of truth.

He was frustrated. He said, “Stef, I’ve had it with you. This is your challenge. You need to get out of your own way. You’ve hired coaches throughout the year. You’ve been an amazing coach through the year and not let people get in their own way. Here’s the challenge, seven dates in seven days.” At the time, that sounded like hell. Backstory on him. He met his wife on an app and I was adamantly against dating online but I had also come to the conclusion my way wasn’t working, so I decided to take him up on the offer.

He wrote me a profile and put me up on online dating apps, which literally was so bad. I’ll give you a little story on what happens. He set me up this dating profile, wrote my bio and took a little troubleshooting. It was quite a challenge, but I did exactly what he said. I went on seven dates in seven days and it simply helped. It was terrible. I will tell you I legitimately could have written a book. I almost thought I should take out my camera and take video of everything I experienced. It was so ridiculously uncomfortable.

As Ben said, I didn’t die and every date taught me something about my life, myself, what I did and didn’t want in a partner and life lessons. I couldn’t legitimately do an episode on the ridiculous dating stories and I’m sure it would be legit comic relief for all of you but the truth is, you are writing the story of your life. When you are hit hard with a challenge, ask yourself, “What would legit story do I want to tell on what happens next?”

I had to heal from that toxic relationship but I got back up. I decided I wasn’t going to let my past dictate my future. It’s so important that we get honest with ourselves and ask the question, what is the one thing that if mastered would have the greatest impact on my life? What if that change would inspire those around you to take their leap of faith? I was so ridiculously uncomfortable in dating, but I kept my eye on the prize. I want to be married and I want to build a life together with an amazing faith-based Christian husband and spoiler alert, he’s here.

I’m so honored to be building my life with him. I look at my life and I think even at eighteen, I started a business then it was buying an investment property, figuring out real estate, writing a book, public speaking, moving across the country, starting a new career, getting married and hopefully, soon building a family. These are all tipping points. When we hear that still small voice, will we make the excuses of being too busy, not ready or deciding now is my time?

Questions To Ask Yourself To Recalibrate And Realign

Here are some questions I love to ask myself. I thought I would pay it forward to you. If I’m ever feeling stuck in my headspace, these will help me to recalibrate, realign and power forward. Number one, if the next year looked exactly like the last month, would you be proud? What’s the cost of staying exactly where you are now? Is your daily routine propelling you to your God-size dreams or keeping you stuck? What are you avoiding now because you’re scared to fail? Who would you be if you weren’t afraid of others’ opinions? If you stripped away every excuse, what would you be capable of achieving now? What parts of your current life would your future self wish you’d let go of sooner?

It’s so important to envision your future self and looking back on who you are. What talks about habits, relationships or mindsets would they beg you to ditch now? Every moment you cling to what doesn’t serve you, you delay the life you say you want. I want to dare you to cut those ties with anything holding you back.

Maybe you need to master taking out the trash. I know there’s seasons where I just got to get my mind right. There was a season where I wasn’t feeling good and finally, I got to the point where I was like, “I’m going to go to different doctors trying to figure out what’s going on.” If this is my new normal for a period of time, I am going to function and flourish even when I’m not feeling well. That’s the reality of it. I’m so proud of myself looking back that I stepped up to the plate, even when there were days where I felt sick and I wasn’t feeling it, but I kept on keeping on because God had put a purpose and a vision on my heart.

Get A One-Hour Boss Life Breakthrough Call

Maybe you need to commit to that one thing. Maybe you need to hire a personal trainer. Maybe you need a coach who will call you out when you’re playing small. I don’t know what your one thing is. For the first time on the show, I wanted to offer something special. I am offering a one-hour Boss Life breakthrough call. I’m doing a limited number of calls, but opening it up from now until December 31st, 2025.

Here’s the thing, I’ve learned firsthand my biggest breakthroughs didn’t come from hustling harder. It came from tuning into that still small voice then connecting with mentors and people that I look up to that I chatted through what I was going through and helped that one mindset shift. That one tipping point and that one thing that gave me so much clarity and it shifted everything. I remember when I attended my first Mastermind. It was the intro call to see if I was going to be a good fit for the Mastermind and vice versa.

I remember talking to the guy in the interview and he asked me one question. When I answered that question, it gave me permission and it was interesting because I’m always saying, “Give yourself permission to live out your god-sized dreams,” but I had not given myself permission in that season of life to shift gears in my career. I was scared but yet just that one mentor, breathing life and belief into me and then becoming a part of his Mastermind. It changed everything. The tipping point was that one conversation.

I want to pay that forward to you. I want to help you equip you for your God-size dreams. I want to bridge the gap between where you are and where you ultimately want to go and give you the tools in resources. As I said, I’m not all that talented but one thing that I am in my zone of genius is I am a power connector.

If you want to learn more, DM me the word legacy to my IG handle @LadyBoss_SP. All the information is there and I want to help you blow the rest of 2025 out of the water. You are created for greatness. It is your time to fire your fear, build your faith and become the boss of your own life. I believe in you guys. It is time to get after those God-sized dreams. It is so awesome to be back. Thank you so much for tuning in. I love you, guys. Let’s slay the rest of the year.

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About Stefanie Peters

Stefanie Peters is a realtor, national speaker, best-selling author, & creator of The Boss Life. She started investing in real estate when the bubble burst back in 2008 and has been the best ROI even over the other successful businesses she has built. In 2021 alone, she doubled the doors she owns & is now on a mission to pay it forward.

She equips entrepreneurs & real estate agents to build multiple streams of RESIDUAL income revolving around their PASSION zones so they can STOP trading hours for, Build Financial Freedom, & Multiply their IMPACT.

As a keynote speaker, Stefanie loves to empower entrepreneurs throughout the USA; speaking on stages with audiences of 10,000+ entrepreneurs about real estate investing, team building, leadership and building multiple streams of revenue.